Wednesday, April 9, 2014

Five ways to show support during difficult times

It is always difficult to watch someone you care about, grieve the loss of a loved one. Often, we do not know what to say or do. A few years ago, I lost my cousin who was also my very dear friend. As I look back on the experience, what stands out the most to me was the overwhelming feeling of love that was poured out by my friends. Most vividly, I remember so many of them showing up to the funeral. Many of them had never even met my cousin. They came to support me. Since then, I have made it a point to use difficult times to pour out love on the people I treasure.

There are ways to come alongside someone and let them know you care. Expressing love during these difficult times is really the most valuable thing we can offer. The following are some easy and practical tips for supporting a friend during a time of loss.

1. Acknowledge the loss. Whether it be through a card, gift or even a text message or email. Reaching out during this time is often what gives the person hope that they are surrounded by love. If you don't know what to say, sometimes the simplest message is best - I would like to offer my sincere condolences on..., I was deeply saddened to hear about...,I am very sorry for the loss of your...It is often nice to mention what you treasured about the person who passed. If you did not know them personally, you can recognize what you treasured about your friend's relationship with their loved one. Keep your note short. Make sure your message lets them know you are there for them but does not require a response.

2. Cooking a meal or baking some treats is often a nice way to express love and support.

3. Remembering special dates like birthdays, anniversaries or special holidays. The first year is always most difficult. Set a calendar reminder for yourself so you can reach out on those hard days.

4. If you want to send a gift, consider sending a plant, tree or rose bush instead of traditional flowers. People are typically overwhelmed by flowers and once they die, they often end up being a burden instead of a comfort. Sending something that can be planted in their yard is a good way to give a lasting memorial gift.

5. Most importantly, remember that grief doesn't end when the funeral is over, it lasts for a long time. Check in often and let people know that you are there for them if they need you.

Kim Freid

Tuesday, April 1, 2014

If you have something nice to say...Say It

I can hear my mom as if it were yesterday, "If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all!" I certainly want my kids to heed that advice.  However, I think it may be even more important to teach them, If you've got something nice to say, Say It!  It seems like there is a scarcity these days on affirmations and compliments.  I'm afraid people have become too busy to take the time to love one another!  
So often we will think of someone in a kind way, but we don't share that thought with them.  We must start to look for opportunities to affirm others.  I am not suggesting that you make stuff up in order to say nice things, but rather create a habit of saying the nice things you've already got inside.  Here are some practical ways to share the good thoughts you have about others.  
1. At the dinner table, have each family member draw a name from a basket or jar of each family members names.  During dinner, go around the table and take a moment to share your favorite thing about the person whose name you drew.  
2. Birthday Cards - take some extra time, with each Birthday card you write to let that person know how special they are to you.  I'm not just talking about a quick, rushed, note in the card.  I am suggesting that you make this the time to really let this person know how you feel about them.  As if it were the last Birthday card you would be able to write to this person.  After all, this is the day to celebrate them and there is no better way to celebrate a person than with loving words!
3. Flip your Birthday - As your Birthday approaches, think of the gifts you have already received that year through friendships.  I'm not talking about physical gifts.  I'm talking specifically about gifts of friendship. Take some time to write cards to those Friends, thanking them for the gift of friendship and letting them know how they affected your year.  
4. Thankful Thursdays - Adopt the concept of Thankful Thursdays to reflect on your week and who has touched your life or come to your mind.  Acknowledge them with something as simple and quick as a text. Be descriptive on what it is you are thankful for.  
Bottom line, if you've got something nice to say, Say It!
Kim Freid

Wednesday, November 21, 2012

Gift Giving

Feeling gratitude and not expressing it is like wrapping a present and not giving it.

Saturday, October 27, 2012

Introduction to Project Treasure

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It's what's inside that maters most..

 Project Treasure is a unique way to deliver joy and inspiration to the people who matter most in your life. We help you deliver a keepsake box full of beautifully printed notes from friends and loved ones. These personal notes show the recipient how much he or she is loved. It will be a gift they'll always treasure.

 We help make the process easy for you. First, invite people to contribute. Then, through Project Treasure's note creator, each person creates meaningful messages for the recipient. The messages are then printed individually on high-quality note paper and assembled into a beautifully packaged keepsake chest for delivery.

 The person you treasure will receive the chest full of uplifting and inspiring notes and know how much he or she is loved and appreciated. For any occasion or event, a chest from Project Treasure will be cherished for a lifetime.